How to reject vegetarian requests (politely)

Hey allโ€ฆ This post is a bit emotional and I am quite nervous of putting it all out there. BS-aside, letโ€™s dive into it.

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Ever since I decided to consume less meat, and challenge myself that during my birthday month I will try to eat vegetarian meals as much as possible if Iโ€™m eating out (itโ€™s the only time when I have a decisive say on what to eat!!), I have shed a few tears after some incidents when people say mean things in response to my choice of cuisine. But on the bright side, I want to thank friends who accompanied me (or at least didnโ€™t turn me down) for a mealโ€™s length of vegetarian journey! โ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธ


I know going vegetarian is a super big thing for some (even though itโ€™s just for ONE meal), and I hope to make this post positive and constructive by turning the table - how would I react when people who are fans of eating meat ask me to go to a all-you-can-eat meat buffet? OR, conversely: how do we politely reject lunch/dinner invitations from vegetarians?

I really prefer having some meat. How about we go to a good restaurant with both meat & vegetarian options?

Yes, itโ€™s really that simple. I would say the same if someone invited me for a steak dinner. Deal, guys?


Ready for some 'meaty' mean stuff?? Oh yeaaaaaaa

(lol sorry I don't mean meat is mean, but just that people always say something is 'meaty' (= full of substance or interest; satisfying)... ^^")

Iโ€™ve heard lots of creative mean/rude comments and before today, I was 100% personally offended when people say those to me (yea #noshame). But I realise by being pissed off, I am actually further distancing myself from convincing others to try vegetarian food.

Now I can totally laugh about them and Iโ€™m just gonna be a bitch here :)

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  • โ€œHey I thought you shouldnโ€™t even eat egg or milk? Are you a real vegetarian?โ€
    - there are different types of vegetarians, youโ€™re talking about vegans, duh. And by guilt-tripping me for not being a vegan doesnโ€™t justify any of your actions (eg being rude, eating meat, etc). Youโ€™re just mean.
  • โ€œI hope you donโ€™t die prematurely because of the lack of nutrition.โ€
    - I think Iโ€™ll live longer than you.
  • โ€œDo we need some poop to start planting the seeds for your plants?โ€
    - Ok lol funny! But not sure if your poop is organic though.
  • โ€œAre you buddhist or something? If not, why are you not eating meat?โ€
    - Er. No. I donโ€™t need a god to tell me what to eat. I read science journals. But thanks for asking.

  • โ€œDo you know plants have life? There are microbes in water too. You shouldnโ€™t even eat anything then.โ€
    - I go vegetarian because itโ€™s environmentally friendlier. By attacking the magnitude of my actions (that Iโ€™m not protecting everything with life) really doesnโ€™t justify the fact that youโ€™re not helping with climate change.

OK, back to the topic


Normally vegetarians around us are not born to be vegetarians, including myself. I won't die from eating the thinnest slice of beef. I am a social animal and I am more than happy to eat meat if you really want me to THAN being publicly mocked by friends I truly value.


The choice of going vegetarian, vegan or meat-eating, is really just a choice of cuisine. Itโ€™s like Japanese vs Chinese, or American vs Italian. Or like a choice of lifestyle, like you like sleeping at 10PM and I like sleeping at 2AM. There is no need to humiliate another person because you donโ€™t like the choice that they have opted for.


I know... I know I can be pretty annoying at times

That being said, I know sometimes people who opted for going vegetarian might feel a sense of self-righteousness when it comes to their choice, which might be a little bit harsh for others to accept - that I totally understand. Some think that, unlike the choice of meat-eating which is based solely on a preference of taste, the choice of going vegetarian is based on values such as โ€˜against animal crueltyโ€™, โ€˜against climate changeโ€™, etc. It takes time to explain, and hence sometimes we can be a lilโ€™ bit excited and overshare why we think going vegetarian is a better option. ( ๐Ÿ™‹Guilty here!!)


Of course, there must be a good reason for eating meat for some, such as from the perspective of nutrition sufficiency, which is perfectly fine. By no means I want to be upset because of my choice of food, and I wouldnโ€™t want others to feel the same. At the end of the day, letโ€™s just try to understand each other more ๐Ÿ™‚


Hey, no judgement here but if youโ€™re curious, find out why I opted for a plant-based meal here!

Peace, xoxo

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